Zip It!

zip it!

that is something i wanted to tell myself now but my heart won't just do it.
all the more the people concerned tell me to stop, all the more i am provoked!
i might have a good command with the language but never did i use this to put down others..
i was not raised that way.

for the past days, i have been exposed to the ills of the world and the ills of people.
and that made me realize so many things..and here is the list of it: (actually most of which can be understood by our common sense, needless to overdo the act of thinking)

1. people are just not used to an objective approach of dealing with issues and things. by all means, we are too attached with our emotions. we can hardly think of the issues at hand because we are overpowered with our emotions.

2. some people ask much.

3.an office or an entity will not dare come up with an instrument or something that will destroy them.

4.it is absurd that when people know that there is something wrong, instead of correcting it with concrete solutions, they tend to come up with a scapegoat for it.

5.friendship might be a price for being assertive.

6. in times of crisis, you will know who are objective and who your real friends are.

7. people cannot in an outright manner admit that they are wrong because they are protecting something.

8. inefficiencies and incompetence will really surface as time goes by.

9. it is absurd that people keep on following or want to be updated still with what other people post on FB even for a fact that the latter is someone they disliked or hated much! :)

10. some people do have this self-inflicted worries and anxieties and they pass the blame to others.

11. there is no point talking with someone who is at the peak of his emotions.

12. if you already have an idea of what is for you SUPPOSED TO BE RIGHT, then it's pointless to ask someone for a talk. i bet, you'll end up in a heated conversation.

13. TO ASK FOR AN APOLOGY DOES NOT GIVE US THE RIGHT TO BE ASSURED THAT THE ONE OFFENDED WILL JUST FORGET EVERYTHING! that is so much for us to ask...it is enough that you were given the chance to ask for an apology, do not expect the offended party to suppress what she feels.

14. Professionalism is not applicable in FB.

15. MY POSTING OF NOTES DOES NOT NEED ANY RESPONSE TO THE CONCERNED, WHAT I JUST WANT IS ---TO AIR OUT WHAT I FEEL AND THIS FACT IS BEYOND ANYONE'S CONTROL! i would gladly appreciate if you won't mind me.

16. immaturity is something terminal. aw!

17. there is a bunch of people who just let others bypassed their rights and sadly i am not one of them.

18. in life, we win some, we lose some. but i do not feel bad to those that i have lost that are not worth-keeping anyway.

19. not everyone is open-minded with the things of this world.

20. filipinos, are not yet ready for a realist approach on issues.

21. almost all people are into FB! :) yeah INCLUDING YOU!whehe

22. blood is truly thicker than water..:)

23. i am always misinterpreted. :) i may come out so strong but i only assert sensible and noteworthy issues.

24. theory of relativism, what is true to you may not be true to me.

25. people should get what they deserve.

26. if the tree does not bear good fruits, there must be something wrong with the roots...haha..in this, i would appreciate that you think beyond the usual..:)

27. it is crazy when everything that i post here is counted against me.

28. I DO NOT ATTACK THE PEOPLE, I ATTACK THE SYSTEM. BUT THE PROBLEM IS, THERE IS A THIN LINE THAT SEPARATES THE PEOPLE FROM THEIR SYSTEM...whew! should the people stick with their system, i might happen to attack including the former. :(

29. i am open to the fact that i am not loved by everyone because of what i have been doing lately, but what can i do? i am one poor lady who just tries to be the way she is!

30. as long as there are people who tell me i am right, i would stick to that belief.


disclaimer: it depends on you if you want to blow this up.
everything i have been posting lately has been counted against me...
i am naturally like this, now if you do not want to get hurt, stop reading my status messages and notes.

i am entitled to my realizations and so are you.


on the lighter side,
"there is a bunch of reasons to be happy!"
"God Bless everyone!"

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HR Sucks!

i would not want to let this week pass without writing a note about my dismay with our HR
i feel i have all the right to feel this!
i cannot believe that yesterday i wasn't able to get my pay.
good thing, the one who explained the reason of my unfortunate lot was just so calm.
well, i remembered vividly though that she did not apologize for such inefficiency in her work.
she claimed that they got confused.
she asked whether i submitted 2 resignation letters?
huuuuwhaaaaaaaaaaaaat?
i clearly shared that i just made one resignation letter and that if she is keen enough in looking at it,
she would get a first-hand information based on that hard fact that the RESIGNATION IS EFFECTIVE on OCTOBER 31!

where the hell did she get the information that says my resignation is effective sept.1?
i do not care if friends shared it with her or i care less if i expressed it at one point while talking with them.
the point is, THE RESIGNATION LETTER SHOULD SERVE ITS PURPOSE!
decisions as to whether i'll be included still in the payroll should be based on it.
it is such a lame excuse to say that because they heard this or they heard that...that is why they have thought of this or that!

they say, assumption is a mother of all screw-ups and i cannot agree more with that.
i guess my week has just been screwed up because of an unjustified assumption.

what if i have children to feed? what if i have an emergency expense to incur?
will i still manage to be a goody-goody girl saying "ah, it's ok you didn't give me my salary because of the WRONG ASSUMPTION you have!"

i claim that those who DO NOT understand my situation might be to some extent plain naive!

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Choosing Battles

a series of not so good experiences made me lift this blog from my friendster account.
this would probably affirm to the reader how stubborn am i.
i hope people who will read this post won't give any malice to this.
read on and it's up to you how would you take this.
August 29th, 2007 by maloueudela

i remembered kimee telling to me one time to choose my battles..
at first i did not really get the point why she said that.
and when i finally got the courage to ask what she meant by that: she simply answered me not to dwell on the battles that are not worth fighting for in the first place.
whew! that is one great lesson i have learned and have come to apply in life.
when i choose my battle, i see to it to first identify the cause why i am fighting for it.
in life, we are heeding many battles, some of which though hard to accept, are not actually worth taking our time .
as i grew mature, i realized that true battles in life are only few and one dominant battle is the very battle we have with ourselves.
i have to be honest, i am still winning over myself and it’s difficult to do that. it seems to be easy but in reality it is the hardest of all.
other than battling with myself, i have a couple of battles around.

once i get into a battle, there is no turning back. simply because, i only get into a battle where i have clear purpose and intentions.

asking me to tone down once i asserted what i believed is right is something i really appreciate. in a way it speaks of one’s concern for me. but sadly i cannot just give up battles that easily because i’ve conducted evaluations before i entered on such. giving up a battle, especially when i know i am on the right track is too much for me to do.

i am not a war/battle freak, i just assert what i believe is right and needs to be done. for me, battles are good in a way. it sharpens one’s art of reasoning. it tests patience, allows us to exercise the act of fact-finding, and there are lot more we can draw from putting up a battle.

surely it can hurt other people sometimes but if both parties are matured enough to just act within the bounds of the issue-it’s not really a problem afterall.

i choose my battles.

once i am into it, you cannot drag me back anymore.

call me too sure about myself, but i have to admit this–once i am in my chosen battle, i don’t have any thoughts of losing… for i have programmed in my mind that i am fighting for the right thing and i ought to finish it with the triumph at my side.

it’s said that~~~"the best way to win an argument is to avoid them"

but i believe

some arguments are not worth avoiding at all. you have to fight for it simply because that is the "best and a must" option in the list.

"everything has its time"..true indeed!!

that is why, some battles/arguments are worth fighting in its defined perfect time.

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