Restless? That feeling that you are like a misplaced energy. You have so much potentials to make things happen but the reality where you are is very limiting?
It seems that you have been jumping from one job to the other?
You are having difficulty in getting what you deem 'you deserve'.
That feeling when you do not know exactly what you want.
You get confused on what opportunities to choose, or you have been dying to get a break, even just ONE break and you'll make it BIG.
Tired of the many crossroads that you have to go through and confront over and over again?
There is this unending pursuit of happiness.
The urge to find one's niche'. The search for one's place under the sun.
Questions come rushing like a strong current:
Is it about money or heeding one's passion? Or, why is there difficult time chasing for both? Can't they come together in one opportunity?
Is it about choosing to stay at the comfort zone, or daring to go out in search for adventure?
Is it about engaging oneself to deep commitment, mere intimacy, or superficial relationships?
Partying whenever and wherever? Or locking up oneself alone?
Identity crisis? Losing one's identity, or trying to get deeper within to know who you really are?
When you decide on such issue, whose call is it? Yours? Your parents, friends or what other people and some strangers say?
Trade-offs. Opportunity cost. What will you be willing to compromise?
Feeling of worthlessness? Or happy, accomplished?
Found one's worth, and a circle worthy of emotional investment?
Young and wild? Young and free?
It can also be, YOUNG, WILD and FREE, but knows HER RESPONSIBILITIES.
Settling down, getting married? Opting for singlehood?
Or enjoying the complications and complexities of the relationship?
Forced singlehood? Forced or fixed marriage?
Single parenthood: enjoying the bliss, or hurdling the pang of burden?
Having found the love of your life, but confused whether it will be worth it to leave the life you have led all these years behind?
Or you took courage to get married and have found new direction and vocation from it.
Standing up for love? Or you have let others define how to deal with it?
Pretensions and facades, unending ways to conceal the current state, the present pains .
Is it belongingness that you long for?
Is it really necessary to hide what you go through?
If you trust your significant circles so much, then you lay to them your concerns, in black and white.
Never underestimate their capacity to understand you.
Are your actions derived from your fear of failure, or moved by your ardent drive to success?
Is it for yourself that you are doing it? If not, then for whom?
Peer, parental and societal pressures can be very powerful.
They have the capacity to unconsiously manipulate your life's direction.
They can give you the greatest emotional blows if you allow them to take the center stage of your life.
They may compare you to others of your age.
If you are lucky, you then have all their praises.
If you fall short of their expectations, banter here and there is but an understatement of what they can possibly do.
Too comfortable that you opted to stay? Or where you are now is too comfortable that you are itching to leave?
Up for something new, something challenging? But the thought of difficulty and uncertainty make you think twice.
You decided to stop entertaining the opportunity to explore, allowing yourself to be paralyzed.
To stay inside the box, or outside of which, is a decision you have to consciously resolve.
Know your reasons for doing so, not because you owe others explanation, but yourself simply ought to know.
Self-inflicted pressures?
Pushing oneself to the limits. What are you proving? That you are great? Fine, you are. Now, stop.
Be kind to yourself more than anyone else.
Stop the comparison once and for all.
You are different. They are different. And your choices set a bigger gap between the lives you lead now.
Know your craft and master it.
This lifetime does not really require us to be excellent at everything; be adept with at least a thing and you are then good enough.
Quarter-life is but a phase that many issues beset.
One has to realize that these issues are shared by almost everyone, and that there is nothing to be ashamed about; there is nothing to fret about.
It is important for one to be resolved of the kind of person she is becoming,
then she has to consciously pull everything under her power towards its actualization.
This is a breeding time for dreams, for BIG dreams.
This is again a phase, like many other life's phases, this will surely come to pass.
However, issues at hand have to be dealt head-on, lest this will surface as more aggravated issues during mid-life.
Know that escaping the issues does not in any way offer solutions, it even adds to the problem.
We do not neglect every encounter we have at this phase, rather we savor it with all gusto.
This is a defining point to many.
One gets to decide whether to become mediocre or achiever.
The next years that will follow will take so much brush of influence from here.
The best thing about Quarter-life crisis is that the people who go through such have a very good excuse to be adventurous and risk-takers, they are regarded as people who braved 'real world' to discover life's 'real worth'.
Restless? Continue exploring because you will never know where you best fit until you have tried going out from where you are. If you are happy where you are now, well and good. However, you might just be happier somewhere else. Nobody knows actually. All of us were born with innate instincts, if it feels right, it might be. But, if you feel there is something missing, there surely is. Do not stop until you find what it is.
This is also a time for the countless 'what ifs' that might linger for a lifetime. Unaswered.
Fears can be overwhelming as much as frustrations.
Unmet life's deadlines and unmet projections on plans may lead to frustrations.
Frustrations may lead to depression, even suicidal ideation or suicide itself.
These issues, when not properly dealt with, may develop to some behavioral problems of sorts.
Blaming : oneself, or others. Self-pity. Angst.
Whatever extent is your share on this life's phase, you have the power to rise above it all.
You have what it takes.
Every encounter is meant to make you better, please do not take that detour of becoming worse.
Enjoy the ride! Your 'right' attitude is your gasoline, it will keep you going.
Believe, keep the faith :)
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