some realizations i had recently:
-i can only become a better person if i allow my learning to be put into application.
-some people stereotype "talkers" as "non-thinkers", i thought it is so unfair for someone who talks a lot, like me, but is also thinking hard at the same time.
-some people would always doubt the goodness you show. hmmm, they might not be used to it, i bet. :)
-some people are just so subjective. they want their way on things even if it means putting others down by taking matters personally. that's mean.
-some are too overwhelmed with their past that they can hardly move on and move forward. they think that they are the only ones who know everything; when people raise queries, it's as if their authority is being questioned. tsk..tsk..tsk..
-we cannot count against others the very qualities that make them distinct from the rest. we cannot just put others in our predefined boxes.we cannot tag a person to be "bad" simply because they do not exhibit the attitude or character that we want to see from them.
-it is not the fault of the assertive if those quiet ones were not able to air out their points. i believe that when we want to drive a point, by all means, we will convey it to the group concerned.
-the transformation of a person cannot be accounted to the efforts of others; if one changed, it's not because of anyone else, but solely because of that person concerned, he made a conscious effort to change for the better.
-it's good to note that due process does not only exist in courts, for if it had been strictly observed otherwise, i might not be where i am now. i was judged unfairly and thank God, there are people who value explanations. i am very happy that there are still a lot of open-minded people who hear first before jumping into conclusion.
-demanding something from others which is beyond their capacity to produce such, and trying to implement the "rules" rigidly without rational basis, are the most absurd encounters i ever had so far. that is so irrational and unreasonable for someone to come up with rules out of whims. it's more absurd for one who imposes the rule to expect that no one would question it. stress! ^^
-we are all different. we need to compromise to blend. we cannot at all times reason out that because we are naturally like this or that, then people will have to understand us. there would come a time when we let go of what we have been used to, in order for us to embrace the better or even the best ones.
-it is futile to make an issue out of a resolved case.
-sometimes, the best option is to just shut up or just stay at the side and say nothing, just observe.
-there will always be a nice way to impose discipline on the subjects. there is what they call - discipline without punishment. discipline is NEVER synonymous to harshness.
-what matters to me above anything else is, the relationship i have with people whom i care much. i have swallowed my pride and i have let go of my way on things just to accommodate what's best for those i care for.
-i choose my battles well. i fight until the very end, but i have learned to let go of some of it, not because i am afraid but i am just courageous enough to accept that it's not something worthy to be entertained in the first place.
-simulations are always efficient ways to learn and experience things that are to be expected.
-people who are being questioned have always thought that the ones raising queries are rude. i'd better zip my mouth then.hehe
-we approach and perceive things differently. thus, there is no way that our experiences would be the same to that of others. it is alright to suggest but NEVER impose your ideas. putting others in your predefined boxes could prove to be the worst undermining you could ever do to them.
-people are good at faking. it's either they fake good or fake bad. we can never conclude one's character unless we get to experience living or at least spend much time with the person.
-it's not easy to redeem your bad reputation as "antagonist" in the story by just explaining, "hey, it's just part of the script". one is not that dumb to just digest anything that you say. your actions mirror who you really are as a person. ^__^
-some people are just so unlovable. loving them and accepting them for who they are, require tons of effort. well, if it is too hard, don't push it.
-respect begets respect. how then can you expect respect to be given to you if you have failed to show it to others you are dealing with?
-one major flaw of facilitators is to impose their ideas when all they need to do is to- listen to the ideas shared, take note of it, paraphrase it and raise clarifications when necessary.
-we can be too emotional at times that it defeats the process we ought to observe.
-everyone learns from each other. there are things that we know that others don't, and otherwise.
-emotional investment proves to be the strongest foundation in any relationship. sharing yourself through your story gives others a better understanding of who you are and why you are acting the way you do.
-one's age is never a measure of one's maturity. some might have experienced much and yet, have not truly learned and matured. :))
-a mother's love supersedes any love there is; it's genuine, always yields to what's best for her children.
-despite the differences people have, unity is still attainable.
-everyone has something good to share.
-people complement each other. the differences in people's personalities are meant to make the team more cohesive. can you just imagine if everyone's personality is the same? there might be no need of relating to each other. the differences we have are like gaps which are being bridged by our relationship with each other. we extend ourselves to meet the rest halfway.
-as much as possible, avoid extremes. don't talk much nor be silent.
-if you can do a task, no matter how difficult it may be to you, by all means do it. your excuses may be taken so hard against you. eyes are on you, comments and criticisms are handy, ready to be given away any time you'll make a flaw.
-it is never a fault to assert for your right. being submissive here is a no-no!
more than the responsibility we have for others, we have the responsibility to our very selves. we should not let others bypass our rights. we should not allow anyone, no matter how powerful that person may be, to step on our rights.
-some are blinded by their self-serving ideals and standards.
-bragging rights is really worth bragging? hmmmm. i wonder.hehe
-no one is to be blamed, except yourself, by the actions you consciously made.
-i am not the only one who believes that this country will turn into 1st world soon. there is a bunch of young people who are going out their way to realize such dream. yehey! :))
-youthfulness is a gift that everyone has to savor. we should not let others discourage us. we remain idealistic and hopeful, may we translate our aspirations to concrete actions. AMEN.
-i submit, only to those worthy of my submission. training is not meant to make the participants act like robots, it has always this goal to bring out the best from everyone.
p.s. with the recent training i had, i felt i was transformed in so many ways. i love the group so much that i am willing to address my personal issues. i have moved on from it and is willing to put into application my learning, but i just feel the need to jot down my realizations so as to keep my sanity. haha (p.s. this is my concrete way of emptying my cup)^____^
till here,
more to come undoubtedly.
lovelove,
malou
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