PPS

Encountered the story of pontius pilate in one of the bible readings during the observance of the holy week sometime in my elementary years.

he was the governor when jesus was sentenced to death through cucifixion. what was interesting about pontius pilate was that he passed the blame to the people, who have chosen barnabas to be freed instead of jesus. pontius pilate washed his hands from the decision of persecuting jesus. it's as if he is not at any reason responsible to the lot of jesus.

so here goes now my reason for coming up with the pontius pilate syndrome in my context.

i have learned that we are all capable of exhibiting the pontius pilate syndrome.

actually i want to contend that we innately have it.

there are points in our lives that we wanted to play safe,

that we don't want be responsible of our plans/desires/intentions/ or actions

we usually invite others to make decisions on our behalf,

not because we trust them so much to decide what is the best for us but most of the time we just want to have somebody to blame if things did not work out well as what we have thought it will be.

we do not want to think that we have brought our own ruin that is why we unconsciously utilize some strategies to save ourselves at the expense of others.

pontius pilate syndrome (pps) comes in different forms.

there are those who are fully aware of what they are doing. they intentionally pass the blame to others or another way to clean their name is to employ occasional memory gap or the other is selective alzheimer's disease.. we just recall those memories that might be of help to us or worse, we try to dig those false memories and assert it with all might for our own defense..

i have encountered a couple of people who are consistently exhibiting their "PPS". they are way too rude to step on others just to feel better. and they are way too naive to feel what pain or insult they have inflicted others. they are way too closed-minded not to see the possibilities outside their personal box..they are way too human to be dominated by their too selfish motives. and they are way too cunning to always find a way out of the loopholes they've created.

i guess.. i am now familiar with the characteristics of people with full-fledged pontius pilate syndrome..

this time i'll be clever in getting along with them..

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SpotLight

We humans are in need of recognition..

from the day we were born we are already struggling to be recognize by others..

it is but actually normal to have that need..(need nga eh)

we have our own spotlights

some are good at this and yet some are good at that.

we cannot be excellent at all things

but i firmly believe that each one is excellent in something!

~~~spotlight!

whew!

with my experiences so far, i reckoned that there are really people who just want to take the spotlight for their own happiness and motives.

vicarious learning taught me that there are some who cannot just be fully happy for others' triumphs!

yes, wanting attention for one to be happy is just okay

but if you are already employing measures to intentionally hurt other people; making them feel that you are far way better than them is a different story.

life indeed is so dynamic in its diversity and so it applies to us-humans.

we have our own spotlights, we need not get those owned by others.

each has his/her own time to shine.

if you had already yours... give way.

that is too loony of you to go beyond what is alloted for you.

if you have not had yours... be patient.

surely you will have your time.

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action speaks louder than words,

even if you flatter or praise;

one is not that naive and stupid not to realize whether what you utter is true or not..

be profoundly happy for others so that by the time you will rejoice for your success, you will have friends who will genuinely celebrate with you! :)

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Justify

we utter words that we normally do not know what they really mean..

okay, we claim that we know those words but we don't exactly know what are its impact on the one who is receiving those.

if there is something that we should guard about ourselves, i believe those are the words that we throw away

talking, if not the easiest thing to do in this world, is surely one of the effortless acts we usually perform. it is as easy as one..two..three.. easy and simple as it may seem, they blow that can be brought by wrong words are as piercing as a well-sharpened sword and blasting as that of nuclear bomb or shall i say even worse than those described.

we cannot just outrightly say to the person "i hate you!" or ""i am annoyed by you!" or "i like you!" or "i love you" with no apparent reason. everything has reasons! i don't need to expound on that.

for saying "i love you or i like you to the person" without elaborating what you said is not that hard to fathom actually..one can just infer that there is something in him/her that is too damn good to be noticed by others.

however in the case of saying "i am annoyed by you" or "i hate you" without any explicitly stated reason is something i feel very stupid!one can hardly guess what is in him/her that made the other party felt bad or annoyed about.

there are some things that can be understood in a blink of an eye and there are those that need explanation.

now if we cannot justify the words we have spoken, then it might be true that the issue is within us.

some people try to lead a peaceful life,

surely everyone wants to live a happy life.

sadly, some people for no apparent reason just want their way onto things. and they claim that they are the ones who are in the aggrieved party. now, let me ask you: is it justifiable?

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